I was recently invited to a social event where I only knew one person. While this person was busy connecting with all the people she knew, I was mingling, observing, and meeting new people. At one point, I took a cozy seat in a chair by a fire close to two people having a conversation. I was not intentionally eavesdropping, but they were speaking in a volume that sent their conversation clearly to my ears (sounds a lot like eavesdropping, Read more »
In my work with wealth-creating families, conflict is often part of the picture. To be clear, all families have conflict; it is natural to families. And when family dynamics and significant wealth combine, the potential for conflict grows. It makes sense: many enterprising families have more complicated common interests. They must make decisions of all kinds regarding the assets they manage and share. Who will be a leader? Who can have input into decisions affecting all of them? How are Read more »
This article by Business News Daily quotes one study which found that 68% of ultra-high-net-worth individuals (UHNW = $30 million or more) were self-made. The article refers to a second study by Fidelity Investments which found that 88% of all millionaires are self-made. In these studies, “self-made” means the wealth was not inherited. While this article focuses on how the UHNW wealth creators tend to get and stay rich (and their characteristics), I’m viewing it through a different lens – the lens of bias against inheritors, Read more »
“Once Again” is in the title here because I’ve already written several blog posts about fairness in the context of family; this is one of the repeating topics arising with the enterprising families I work with. It is understandable that families often ask me for the best way to be fair in their situation. It makes complete sense that they ask this. If there was a rule book or definitive guide, I’d share it freely. Of course, there is no Read more »
What is it about family dysfunction? The large majority of my job is facilitating, educating and coaching families who share ownership of businesses and legacy wealth to help them communicate well, manage conflict, create high-functioning, family-ownership teams and develop governance for decision making, sharing information and inclusion of subsequent generations. I also specialize in working with couples–pre-children or with very young children on how to set the stage for responsible, productive and values-based lives in the context of family financial Read more »
Last month’s blog, Wet Leaves and Humility , left me in a humiliated but (slightly) wiser position as a father and consultant to business and legacy wealth families. Please read it over if you have not (only takes a couple of minutes to read) – it sets the stage for this blog. In a nutshell, my last blog tells the story of how I thought I was doing something well and my son pointed out that he had a much better way to do Read more »
Stories of fatherhood can be embarrassing. They are often instructive. For me, this tale has been both. I’m a parent to sons ages 23 (Jeremy) and 20 (Matthew). The older and wiser they get, the less intelligent I seem to be. I’m getting used to it. We have a pool in our backyard and we closed it for winter in late September. It has a huge tarp over it. In NJ this time of year, there are lots of leaves. Read more »
On April 29th, I’ll be presenting at the Prairie Family Business Association’s 29th Annual Conference . I presented in 2015 and love the state of South Dakota and wish I could be there in person this year. The conference is a hybrid and I’ll be virtual. The good news is, wherever you may be located, you can join this great conference with excellent content and more than 400 attendees. I’ll be speaking about raising children in the context of a family business (FB) – a topic I’m Read more »
When does a family business become a family business? Answers vary but usually include something to the effect of two or more family members owning a majority and having significant strategic influence over the business. One of the most common seeds of a family business (FB) is sown when the founder of a business decides to include other family members in ownership and leadership, whether now or in the future. While the founder can engage cousins, a spouse or other Read more »
Hi Friends/Colleagues, I’m facilitating a free, virtual workshop about raising children in the context of a family business. The workshop is in coordination with NYCFEC (NY City Family Enterprise Center) and is intended for business families in the greater NYC area. Tuesday, May 5th, 2020 – 4 pm – 6 pm. Come as my guest for no fee using code – JS051 – at checkout. This is a small, personal and highly interactive workshop – learning and fun. Feel free to share this with anyone who Read more »
